What is it that you want? When you’re lying in bed at night, thinking about your day, what is it that nags at you? What is the feeling that never goes away? Have you ever sat down and listened carefully to that voice? Or better yet, write out a list of what the voice is trying to tell you? I know, it is easier said than done. Whether it’s our busy lives, our active careers, providing and caring for our families, or just getting through the work day, we don’t often take the time to check in with ourselves.
Every year, my husband and I check in with each other. We usually do it around our anniversary or a birthday. It’s our version of new years resolutions. Instead of making claims we won’t stick to, we take a look at the year before and evaluate where we have been, and where we want to be. The very first thing we do is ask each other if we still want to be married! We have a good laugh together and agree to another year. Then, we carry on to talk about our health, travel, the kids, our businesses. We write down everything we want, big and small, in all areas of our life. It’s a fun activity, and it keeps us moving forward in pursuit of our dreams.
So, how can you get started getting everything you ever wanted from your life?
Start by making a list of the five most essential things in your life right now. Take a close look at your career, your relationships, your health, and the things you love to do or that make you happy. If you end up with more than five things on your list, prioritize each item and cut-off anything that didn’t make the top 5 (don’t worry; you’ll address these again when you check in with yourself in 6 months or a year).
Next, take each item and go deeper. Get specific. Let’s use travel as an example. Let’s say you put “travel” on your list. You can’t just stop there. You have to be very specific. Why is travel important to you? How much travel do you want to do? How long do you want to be away from home? Where do you want to travel 1st, then 2nd, then 3rd? What do you want to do while you are away? Once you’ve put in the detail, then change the way it’s written. Instead of just “travel,” use your answers to detail your item. For example, “I want to travel to Paris in the next two years for at least two weeks, so I can experience the culture and expand my view and knowledge of the world.” One common characteristic found in champions who reached the top of their field was their ability to tell you in great detail, what their dreams looked like before they achieved their success! They could tell you what it smelled like, tasted like, what they were going to be wearing, and what steps and actions they were going to take to get there — to get as specific and detailed as possible with each item on your list! Create an active visualize of what your life looks like in the future. Five years from now, does your life look precisely the same? Do you still weigh the same? Do you have the same amount of money in your bank account or retirement fund? Are you still married to the same person?
Lastly, put the list where you can see it every day. This is important. Even better, create a vision board with images and words of these items to remind you what it will feel like to reach your goals. Money, good health, great relationships, travel, a happy career, adventure, whatever your list contains, can all be yours in the future when you start actively working towards it.
Having it all doesn’t mean having everything, but it does mean having everything you ever really wanted.
Did you know people who vividly describe their goals are 1.2-1.4 times more likely to accomplish their goals! But don’t take it from me, take a look at this article from Forbes for more on this subject. http://www.forbes.com/sites/markmurphy/2018/04/15/neuroscience-explains-why-you-need-to-write-down-your-goals-if-you-actually-want-to-achieve-them/